Before I’ll offer more Undercover Yoga to you this pressing theme offered itself.
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This winter my client Roxana experienced a heavier load of the bleak depressed feelings many of us dread repeatedly during this season. The “Happy Holidays” are not so happy for many of us often based on our family history in combination with THE weather and too many clothe, keeping us away from direct skin contact with [our] nature.
Roxana noticed how the darker shorter days made her feel just like that – emotionally darker and physically collapsing inside her chronically problematic spine. The “usual” stress she manages more or less well now had cut her off from feeling her light. Her painful im-pressions piled up on one another until one more finally broke her strength to cope.
The De-pressing of our Well-Being
Because of Graduate schools’ strain and added psychotherapy, which led to the re-incarnation of her unresolved traumatic experiences, Roxana had dropped her self care. She had stopped her long walks in nature that had given her a sense of groundedness. She gave up cooking and stuffed herself from the fridge. She also drank more wine to relax her growing tensions which only supported her dis-embodiment.
“If it’s not one thing – it’s your mother”……
Her straight-A achievements couldn’t help when finally her mother’s demand for Roxana’s face at several parties [that included long air trips] pulled her even further outside her sense of self.
Especially during heightened pressure we women learned to pull-our-selves-together for the world. Forced by hyper masculine ‘normalcy’ we are numbed against the human nature underneath our skin. We vacate our body and crunch into our mind only narrowly surviving. We separate from what moves our spirit and abandon the nurturing self-care we depend upon.
That day at my office Roxana just managed to close the door before her dams broke. When she offered her desperate hope to just die her body trembled with exhaustion and angst.�
She had just come from her therapist leaving a very difficult session of profound insight into the lack of interest in life. Than she hit massive traffic and was late for our session. Roxana felt like a total failure and was ready to give up.
Touching for Life
I held her gently and long. I moved her achy body to reconnect with her awareness mainly guided by the Feldenkrais® Method. As we ‘touched’ on all her overwhelming issues, her body began to soften and expand. Roxana’s breathe deepened and her head could let go.
When she left she was glowing from inside, she felt calm and present all the way through her feet. Roxana was emanating the beauty, vulnerability and softness that comes from finding our inner connections, our true strength of aliveness.
Later Roxana reported how this treatment had freed her from her minds life-less prison. She was able to feel her whole self again. Her body gave her a spacious sense of being HOME. The self-compassion that followed gave her desire to go out to the beach where she buried all of 2009’s burdens. She had fun cooking and certainty that she could get through the next family gathering with a healthy ability to find the positive.
Roxana’s journey highlights again that our body, not our mind, can contain life’s challenges. Our minds re-membering of our body’s vast capacity for well-being in the midst of overwhelm can return when we keep taking loving care of it first. Hugging and touching every day keeps us connected to our real power.
Thank you for your attention
Onward with Undercover Yoga
Next months Themes include:
Become an Exhaler
Schlappe Noodle Fun
Touch for Pleasure
Ocean Motion in your Hips
Please! Whatever you do – Stay within the limits of pleasure. Make it simple and easy.
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