A Woman is a Mystery…

Posted by admin on November 25th, 2009

736 words – about 4 min reading time

A Woman is a mystery – that can guide the wise and open Man – Rumi

A Womyn is a Mystery... Rumi Calendar 11.09

I believe feminine energy can slow us and our self-destruction down.

To ask you bluntly: How different do you think the world would be if our mind set on overdrive [masculine] could cool down enough to realize It has an amazingly real physical body? Female or Male, your really amazing and ever changing [feminine] body carries your mind around to experience our world more wholly.

 

Women and men develop the sort of masculine force that grows more exclusively when there is [or was] reason to for self protection. Most of us have been negatively affected by our immediate and/or larger world since we were conceived and collectively worldwide during at least the past 18 months. For most the future does not look so restful rosy either. Experiencing threat automatically gears up our mind to labor in high action mode. Self-preservation has us either drifting in numbness or act with anxiety and aggression. Driven by our alarmed survival instinct we tightly parade all our striped muscles to be ready for fight or flight or freeze at all times.

This is not living life. This is surviving it!

 

“Always look for the third possibility…”- I learned from Dr. Moshe Feldenkrais. http://www.feldenkraisguild.com/method/a_biography_of_moshe_feldenkrais/

Pleasure Pig looking outside the box 

 

 

 

 Let’s have a look!

 

 

 

 

As Saniel Bonder http://www.sanielandlinda.com/calls it: “The Hyper Masculine Dharma” is ruling our daily life. Aggression, violence and force are represented by 2 ½ times more brain cells in men’s heads. That is why in difficult times fear and stress are ruling.

But unfortunately not just in men. Women have learned to flex their masculine intensity pump very successfully; sometimes quiet domineeringly. Our [mental] world seems to turn faster and tighter, creating more pain and suffering each day. This fear of loosing control [masculine] takes over and does not let us go easily.

People look driven drained and hungry for real life.  

 Disgrunteled Pleasure Pig, San Francisco 09.09

 

 

 

 

 

 

Here is what I found – my third possibility.

Our global painfully intimate experience can also centrifuge us from twirling outwardly between our glooming past and uncertain future in-ward into this present moment where we notice our self and body here now. “Hey Buddy! Welcome! I miss you so much…!” – could be the first embrace when you begin to suspect your body and breath again.

“You are out of your mind!” the little controle goes off. 

Smile… With your body encounter come your feeling senses, your gut-feeling-wisdom, your soft-heartedness, your sure-footedness, your strong backbone and your true exhale of relief.
With awareness of your body comes your trust in the Life–Death–Life-Cycle[Women who run with the wolves- Clarissa Pincola Estes] each moment anew and cumulative.

 

To me it feels natural that mostly women are [re-]connecting with and expressing our spirit and souls em-bodiment. I wrote in Septembers’ BBB that in contrast to men women have their brains tuned more toward the art of connection and emotion. In contrast to the male principle our female brain centers and nervous system more readily obtain notions by perceiving physical experiences.

 

I certainly can not exclude myself from us women spinning all to easy in overdrive far too often and more and more and faster. So I was very surprised and thankful when just the other night my husband was the one who brought home a deeply relaxed and opening view to all of the tightening problems in my head… His Yoga class that night had been a rare two hours of restorative poses… aaaahhhhhhhh!!!

 

Reminding myself of this ‘whole’ other ‘half’ of my human [and not just easeful feminine] capacity to feel life’s events more wholly as invitations by including all physical senses I re-member my power to choose my experience. mmmmhhhh!

 

I am writing my book on the Recovery of Feminine Radiance because I know women have an easier access and connectedness to our body: The mystery that can guide the wise and open men… A Woman’s innate effortless flow and pleasurable softness as her body are also giving each one of us the challenge and the opportunity to invite our own radiant ease back in and to share our exquisitely fulfilling wisdom from ‘this side of life’ with others, women and men through our body.

 

“Life is but a dream dadu dada. Life is but a dream dadu, dadu, dadu, dadu dada. Life could be…..”

 pleasure pig in Pliss

 

 

 

 

 

 

Look for the third choice with a smile.

 Until next month

Happy Holidays

Sabine

Disclaimer

Please! Whatever you do – Stay within the limits of pleasure. Make it simple and easy.

The author doesn’t take any responsibility for any possible consequences that might occur from your thoughts and actions.

 

Sabine Grandke-Taft

Embodiment Expert and Workshop Leader
for more information please go to
www.RadiantEmbodiment.com
http://www.linkedin.com/in/sabinegrandketaft

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Pleasure II in 500 words?

Posted by admin on September 29th, 2009

Contemplations on the most important experience of our life.
501 words takes you about 3 min to read

Returning from the 15th Annual Pacific Women Circle Association Crescent Moon Retreat on Vancouver Island  [http://www.pwcacamp.org/index.html]  I strongly  feel the need to keep writing about expanding our minds automatic association of the words “Pleasure” and “Touch” with Sex.

I feel the urgency to bring alertness to our painfully limited, and by the way hyper-masculine, one-way fantasies that put physical pleasure immediately into the sexual amphitheatre, as if that’s our only playground to enjoy touch sensually. ? Ouch!

In last months Blogging Body Bliss I mentioned our gender based brain differences biologically stirring men to link life’s experiences 2,5 times easier to sex. So why do women fall into that same cul-de-sac around ‘getting some’, or not?

I spend a full-blown pleasure week with 60 remarkable women, dancing, laughing, celebrating, teaching, singing, learning and trusting the mystery that unfolds in each moment because we were softening our bodies. Creating art on all levels with everything just because we did it with the awareness that comes from slowing down in the sacred circle we created. Even crying was received as pleasurable because women were releasing tensions, trusting one another enough to open, feeling held and safe enough; finding and releasing into serenity resting inside our bodies; allowing the warm and spacious container of the great-er mother to nurture us inside and out, all around.

On the opening night I offered a circle massage sequence; asking each woman to get really close to each other, do a ¼ turn and reach for the shoulders in front with soft paws. To my great sadness many of the women had not been physically touched and nurtured for sooo long, some for many years.

Bhutan, Paro Palast
The initial nervous giggles from our unusual closeness with touch quickly turned into sighs of release, purrrrrrs in delightful surrender and in the end swaying full body smiles.
From the lakeside the warm rays of the setting sun melted our tensions tangibly into the grass underneath our bare feet.

That cold-blooded grip of our fear of intimacy softened just enough to allow us to feel more freely and to begin to perceive our own humanness and with that each others divinity. Tired exhausted women felt energized, tense stressed-out women landed inside their bodies and released their suffering minds. Everyone relaxed those boundaries that we so tightly install inside and around ourselves in this unfriendly intimi-dating world of the survival of the fittest.

We began to date intimacy. We had entered a sacred space to trust the touch for another woman; a hug, a little massage, even a smile; we let it in stilling our feminine hunger for real connection. Giving and receiving touch at the same moment with 60 women let our awareness grown beyond any usual suspicion.
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Let you own awareness deepen with each experience. Notice how your body will flow naturally with more nurturing gentle and loving pleasure.

Free yourself from a male brain anatomy imposed stereotype of perception and invite men into the endless space of your whole body deliciocity.
With a smile
Sabine

 Thank you for reading

 

Disclaimer

Please! Whatever you do – Stay within the limits of pleasure. Make it simple and easy.

The author doesn’t take any responsibility for any possible consequences that might occur from your thoughts and actions.

 

Sabine Grandke-Taft

Embodiment Expert and Workshop Leader
for more information please go to
www.RadiantEmbodiment.com
http://www.linkedin.com/in/sabinegrandketaft

Creative Commons License 

Sabine Grandke-Taft holds the copyright for her blog but allows you to copy and distribute her work provided you give me credit and link back to my website www.radiantembodiment.com  Thank you very much.

The SERIOUS Deliciocity of Foot Pleasuring Massage II

Posted by admin on June 7th, 2009

A 3-piece of writing about our incredible feet and how caressing them grows us deeper into life and love and presents

 

1693 words will take you about 8.5 minutes to read

 

II. Why?

 

is it that a little foot rub can change life?

 

Our Sensory Development

 

As you have noticed in part I [see May 2009] of this article your feet are a key to your whole life.

How much can you sense of and with your feet right now? Socks, Shoes, Space, Temperature? How about a sense of Release, Landing and Comfort? Not jet? Read on.

 

Where are you going?

To appreciate the fundamental importance of your feet, [which not only literally carry you where you want to go in your life], it is fun to look at the exciting sensory development from the foot perspective.

Being able to really FEEL your feet is at the end of a fascinating installation, awakening and ripening process of our whole bodies’ sensate systems that begins around your mouth with the 8th week after your conception. Starting from the head your sensory awareness is fine tuning and expanding down your embryonic tiny body.

Although most of your skin can sense stimulation and even differentiate pain from around the 12th week after your conception – when you were almost 3 ½ inch tall and your weight was an amazing 1,6 ounces – awareness reaches your feet last.

 

Baby Steps

If you are a mother you may vividly remember the wonderful reassuring kicks of your babies’ feet from the inside. Fathers and special friends got to feel this exhilaration from the outside.

Directly after being born a baby can use these well practiced motions to ‘crawl’ up to its mother’s nipple and nurse for the first time all by itself within 30 min.

newborn feet

 

 

But for the next few months their legs and feet are by far not as interesting to them as their mouth and upper body because the ability to sense with discrimination has not yet reached the lower body.  When you gently massage their exquisite feet infants will let you know clearly if you are doing it just right, but they do not make the connection to where on their body that pleasurable feeling actually comes from until their nervous system has ripened all the way down.

 

Eventually, after 10-14 month, filled with intense growth by trail and ‘error’ we begin our vertical life of walking because our feet have lastly matured sufficiently into this continuum of sens-orally and functionally integrating each body part. It does take THAT long for our whole body to be “lit up” and ready for action in the sensory motor cortex of our brain.
 
 
 

 

 

Old Horizons

Throughout my Physical Therapy training in Germany and still during my further specification in child developmental therapy [Bobath and Sensory Integration] during the early 80’s the understanding was that the fundamental learning capacity of our brain ends at the age of 7[!] From than on, my teachers said, our brain could only refine the basic patterns that had been engraved by those early impressions.

 

I remember a deep sense of loss and even a ‘giving up’ hearing this – not just for all my adult patients who where trying to learn to walk again after injuries, hip or knee replacements, or other surgeries – but also for my own need to fill the gaps of crushed pleasure horizons and limiting mind-sets that I was raised with by my parents’ and grand parents’ WW II generations. In those times they had none for ‘sweet footing’ around.

 

In our achievement obsessed world we need to value that a baby will only stand up by itself naturally and maturely when its nervous system has developed enough by integrating sensory acuity with muscular strength. Curiosity and a desire for pleasurable experiences build the floor.

 

Unsurprisingly maturing happens naturally in the horizontal positions on the floor.
I always cringe when I see parents who stand up their babies and pull them to walk earlier and earlier. Besides other devastating long term effects on the unprepared hip joints and spine, standing on those immature feet alone takes away all of the necessary information that their whole body would otherwise receive and assimilate by rolling, crawling, creeping, pushing, pulling, pivoting; in short playing around on the floor. The natural year long [not counted the time in the womb] completion process of getting to embody ones whole world with ones whole body gets a terrible far-reaching short cut.

As a result we see too many adults who struggle to stand on their own two feet. Too many appear spineless. And our spirituality feels flat – “it comes out like a fax”.

 

 

New Pleasure Horizons

Researchers only recently found that our brain keeps its plasticity all along and so we can all celebrate what I was so curious about: It’s never too late to explore and develop our capacity to feel the nourishment of pleasure! Neuro plasticity/learning, the sprouting of new neural connections between brain cells for physical emotional and mental recovery, and our over all expansion and deepening of human awareness never has to end! Spirituality can dance on the feet of your embodiment.

 

As babies play their way down their body one extremely important achievement happens – they get fascinated by their feet, learn to grab them and thoroughly and extensively lick and bite and chew on them; from about the 5th month onward.

 

foot-in-mouth

Talk about natural contentment and sensuality… aaaahhhhhh! Uuuuuuhhhhhh!

 

 

Steps to Awareness

What’s your connection to your feet in this moment? Warmer?

 

Do you recall spending time barefoot in nature? Does that not always feel like summer vacations?

 

Since the very old days where kids grew up barefoot our world got more and more modernized and we ‘concretized’ more and more over Mother Nature.

Our mothers began than to protect and hide our feet in those, I have to admit, irresistibly cute tiny baby shoes too much too early. Our ‘hungry for life’ feet do not come in contact with enough sensory ‘nourishment’ any longer.

 

I never forget my boss, the Neuro-Pediatrician Dr. Inge Flehmig creator of the Institut fuer Kindesentwicklung [Institute for Child development] in Hamburg, stating: “Shoes? Only for protection against cold wet and injury!”

To this day I feel disconnected from my clients as well as my intuition if I wear shoes when giving a Symphonic Touch® session or teaching my workshops. I keep asking my adult clients to walk barefoot as much as possible for grounding, relaxing and connecting to themselves and root to the earth.

 

 

Feminine Radiance – Masculine Presents

Our predominantly established sexualisation of pure sensory experience to me is one major reason for the lack of true masculine clarity and presents in men and the lack of feminine ease and flow in women. How can we feel safe enough to allow ourselves to live our true nature if we do not sufficiently feel our whole body resting on our ‘awakened pleasure’ feet? Therefore how can we trust our foundation? In other words; Authenticity is a question of embodiment.

 

As you can imagine by now; one seriously delicious return to sanity is to entice some-one out of their head and into their em-bodiment with a wonderfully relaxing foot rub. You do not have to wait until next months ‘How” is posted to grab any available foot including your own and start exploring right now.

 

 

Foot Notes

 

Foot fetish – I could not get around researching the adult sexualized view of our feet. This is what I found:

In 2002 Neurologist Vilayanur S. Ramachandran proposed that foot fetishism is caused by the feet and the genitals occupying adjacent areas of the somato-sensory cortex, possibly entailing some neural crosstalk between the two.

 

Great! Isn’t it? The possibilities of getting your skeptical girlfriends or even your tired man more easily interested in receiving and giving a foot rub just multiplied. Curiosity moves mountains.

 

 

Foot Talk

During the late 80’s I had justt gotten very curious about the very descriptive, simply down to earth, embodied language that Germans use when I immigrated to the US.  Here are some of the English examples I found since that give you a sense of how embodiment shows up internationally through your feet.

 

 

Getting cold feet

I’ve lost my footing

Got blown of my feet

Pussyfooting around

Walking on eggshells

Tip toe through the tulips [could also belong below]

Having to put a foot into your mouth [might not be so bad after all – try]

And here’s a German one: If your idea has no hand and foot – it’s useless

 

OR

 

Surefooted

Jump into life

Down to earth

Walk your talk

Put your foot down

Get a foot in the door

Connecting to our roots

Getting back on you feet again

Land/ Stand on your own two feet

Putting one foot in front of the other

A journey of a thousand miles begins with the first step

 

It rolls

At last I want to call to your attention the people who are born without or have lost or badly injured their feet. As a Physical Therapist I can only imagine how their nervous system, physical body and psychology are facing a tremendous amount of challenges with daily ups and downs. But [re]-learning to walk on our own, I know you know, is a tremendous motivation and accomplishment for us humans. I am sure you have also heard of someone who got back onto their feet after a devastating personal event. Do you remember how relieved/light footed that made you feel?

When I was about 21 and working at a big orthopedic hospital, I remember unassumingly asking a patient in his wheelchair: “How is it going?” “It’s rolling!” he answered.

 

Thank you for taking the time to read.

Onwards in July with

 

III. HOW?

OK – if [foot]-pleasuring is so good for everyone, how can I have and give more of it?

 

 

Resources

Das Leben vor dem Leben – Katherina Zimmer

Normale Entwicklung des Saeuglings und ihre Abweichungen – Dr. Inge Flehmig

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Foot_fetishism.

 

 

Disclaimer

Please! Whatever you do. Stay within the limits of pleasure. Make it simple and easy.

The author doesn’t take any responsibility for any possible consequences that might occur from your thoughts and actions.

 

 

 

Sabine Grandke-Taft

Embodiment Expert and Workshop Leader

for more information please go to

www.RadiantEmbodiment.com

http://www.linkedin.com/in/sabinegrandketaft

 

Creative Commons License

Sabine Grandke-Taft holds the copyright for her blog but allows you to copy and distribute her work provided you give me credit  and link back to my website www.radiantembodiment.com Thank you very much.

 

The SERIOUS Deliciocity of Foot Pleasuring Massage I

Posted by admin on May 11th, 2009

proximate time to read 1129 words – 6 min
A 3-piece of writing about our incredible feet and how caressing them grows us deeper into life and love and presents

I. What?
I know if I asked you would come up with some very nice scrumptious things that you would like to have done to your whole body, but here let me strongly “put my foot down” for receiving and even for giving foot rubs.

Our feet are our elemental connection to the earth. Besides balancing the rest of our body above they are balancing us electromagnetically as a whole. Literally they are our foundation. The foundation for whatever we put on top. They are not just the multitalented footing for our bones and muscles, the handy propellers for our super lightning speed with toe suction cups for balance; they also found equilibrium for our mind and our emotional body. I propose:

The realization of our spiritual body stands on our feet.

Your feet are providing you with your sense of BEING. Being grounded and deeper yet… they can give us all the sense of Being rooted As embodied Spirit. This absolute essential experience of Spirit Alive, of course, can only be realized
IF YOU FEEL YOUR FEET!

Let’s feel – shall we! How are your feet right now?
Did it take you a moment to bring your attention down there – that far??
Are your feet feeling alive and vibrantly happy, warm and free, soft and ready to carry you anywhere?

Mine sometimes feel formlessly cold and dis-connected from the rest of my already contracted body. This happens mostly when I am very much concentrating in my head on getting something done right. [- like writing this piece at 10 pm – Ha! – good reminder not to leave my body for my mind]

Sometimes they feel like they are dangling somewhere far away. I know real well that if only I would put on warm socks ALL of me would begin to feel better. BUT, but but… when my feet are already so dead and my mood is appropriating and my mind is simultaneously trying to outthink itself [without making any mistakes, of course] – I am not even having the energy to stop what I’m doing, get up and do take care that my feet [I] feel happy. I am sure you know that space when you are already so miserable and running on [high] low you do not even want to help yourself feel better – or am I just projecting my excuses for not caring for myself onto you?

tank-house-feet1

HELP!?
Help is needed!
Help is right at your toes-tips!

For most of us being touched during a massage for instance, brings us more easily and often deliciously back into our over-all sense of harmony and well-being – the BEST reason for having a body. Touch grounds us. It re-connects all the scattered pieces. Touch makes us feel whole.
But our feet seem to be the forlorn child cast out into the ally way of  our deep need for sanity, nurturing and pleasure. Actually your feet are much easier accessible than having to take off your clothes, find the right place, time, money and person to touch your back and shoulders, arms legs and belly, neck and all. During foot massage your back and shoulders will relax as well as the whole rest of you and you could even leave your socks on.

I propose a twosome –
“gonna try a little help from my friends….”

Do you have a girlfriend you “detox” with each week? It’s time! Get cozy on the chaise longue, the sofa, in a meadow or at an outdoor seating café … [at least here in the Bay Area where touching another ones foot under the table is considered exciting and hip – Who knows, you might even get some wonderful people patiently lining up to receive next…] Seriously! We all truly need it!
Each one of you gives a foot to the other before you begin your usual chat chewing fat. You get ‘down to it’ faster and by the way you might have even more fun.

A very spot-on statement from my Watsu teacher Harold Dull
“Touch is a necessity without which babies die and adults become strange….”

Touching each others feet allows immediate access to the whole body, because each bone and muscle, each organ, nerve and tooth; literally everything is represented amazingly in that little part of us. Being touched and held by another at our feet reaches All of us in a supportive noninvasive way.

footreflex-zones-small

This beautiful old illustration I scanned in for you from a calendar shows the most important zones for accessing our inner organs embodied on the soles of our feet, but the whole foot and the ankle offer those zones.

When you bring them home you can turn the wonderful effects of being so much closer and nourished by the exchange with your girlfriend into magic. Begin to make foot rubbing a new habit for the flourishing of your relationship.

My husband and I will sit down almost every evening to share about our day, grab each others foot and re-connect in this delicious body way. Our touch invites both of us to relax our mind and expand our awareness. The instant embodiment that happens allows both of us to effortlessly become present with ourselves and with each other. We manage the magical switch from our work/action/stress/mind energy and open an easy bridge way into our relationship. Our sharing becomes a delight.

The 5 T’s: Touch Transforms Tension To Tenderness.

A little Story
Some time ago my husband took this practice to a new high. It happened to be one-of-those-nights when I growled: “I am in “Pre-Magnificent-Stage” [PMS] and I would rather be alone right now than having to cook dinner and sit there with ‘some guy’ [him] to eat it…. Rrrrrrrrrrrrrrrraaaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhh!”

It only took him a sec before he smiled – obviously not threatened by my ultimately hidden cry for help he told me to get on the sofa – take off my socks and give him my feet! His masculine clarity got me. I surrendered, still grudgingly, but than schlepped my tight miserable mind-out-of-body over into the living room.

Schwup-dee-vup! A few minutes later and with the touch of his big warm hands my foul hormonal mood attack was transformed from a pissy mountain lion mama into her soft-[ening] playful cub – still, I was a ‘youth of a carnivorous mammal’, but now I had an excellent time Being back as my body-self and with him. Clever man that is! Ppppppuuuuuuuuurrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr!

How come a little foot rub can change life?
Back to Babies – Roots of Our Sensory Development – Neural crosstalk between feet and genitals [?] and
Foot Notes

read on in June

The author doesn’t take any responsibility for any possible consequences that might occur from your thoughts and actions.

 

Sabine Grandke-Taft

Embodiment Expert and Workshop Leader

for more information please go to

www.RadiantEmbodiment.com

 

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Sabine Grandke-Taft holds the copyright for her blog but allows you to copy and distribute her work provided you give me credit  and link back to my website www.radiantembodiment.com Thank you very much.

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