16 Ways to nourish your Pleasure-Pig through the Winter

Posted by Sabine on December 19th, 2010

Dear Blogging Body Bliss Reader

After several month of working on many other projects like my DVD- 20 Ways to please the Other, my whole new website, my new line of Signature Body/Bath and Massage Oils and facilitating a Pleasure Class for the 8 week Beauty Way Tele-Course I am back to offer more teachings and stories on Pleasure and how to nourish your pleasure-pig through the winter.


What better way to ease into the Holiday Season than to play with
deepening your pleasure. I took these idea’s from the
book that I am writing about “the Secret Power of Feminine
Pleasure”. I have to admit that these practices are written for
women, but that does not mean that you men can not have fun as
well and /or even deepen more with your partner through your
mutual enjoyment.


  • In the morning, set the stage for your pleasurable day – don’t jump out of bed – simmer – [see my Undercover Yoga Blogs].
  • Notice your breathing. Your awareness will ease and expand it without you having to do anything.
  • Play with sounding whenever you think of it, Humming, Uuuhing, Ahhing.  These good vibrations will gently bring harmony to each cell of your body.
  • Do the dishes or whatever you do and find the pleasure in it – allow your whole body to gently receive the sensations you find through all of your body senses; paying attention to details like feeling the soapy warm water that caress your skin, the slow movements of your hands and whole body softening your muscles and the gentle touches of the sponge or dish cloth.
  • The feminine is about horizontal! – at least put your legs up whenever you can.
  • Go for a walk and feel the Ocean Motion of your hips. Our body consists of 70-80% water. Imagine your inner lake is sloshing against your inner skin releasing tension, harmonizing and clearing your everywhere.
  • Regarding relationships [include the one with your own body] When we get too much into our heads, we just need to go for a walk and our conversation [or stuck-ness] begins to flow again and with deeper under-standing.
  • Wash off the energies of the day with the sacred ritual of water – take a shower when you come home and change into some wonderful clothe that underline your ease and comfort.
  • Caress your body with nourishing oil after your shower every day as if you are touching a baby or a lover; explore, get to know what quality of your touch feels best and where.
  • The energy releasing bath: ad 1 pound of baking soda and 1 pound of see salt for every 100 pounds of your body weight to your warm bath.  Stay for 15-20 min and let the water drain while you are still in the tub.  The lowering water table seems to draw even more negative energy out of your body.  Shower and oil your beautiful skin afterward.
  • Write down 10 experiences that were pleasurable each day – it’s a great anti-depressant, but also helps to gradually shift your mind from its habitual focus on the negative.

  • In general slow down – feel – allow something positive inside like a warm expansive sensation to become your priority and feature that into the world.

As you can see anything goes when it comes to finding pleasure during your day as long as you allow your bodies’ sensations to guide you.

You only have to let the soft animal of your body love what it loves – Mary Oliver

I wish you all the best

Yours Sabine

with Gratitude and Bliss into 2011

The author doesn’t take any responsibility for any possible consequences that might occur from your thoughts and actions.

Sabine Grandke-Taft

Embodiment Expert and Workshop Leader

for more information please go to

www.RadiantEmbodiment.com

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Disguised Pleasure

Posted by admin on October 26th, 2009

PLEASURE in 500 words?

Contemplations on the most important experience of our life

501 words will take you less than minutes to read 

Since the early springtime I was invited to teach 2 workshops in New Zealand.

What a wonderful exciting intense work pleasure! The 9 month of planning and re-planning, organizing and promoting zoomed by like that jet that was going to get me there in just 13 hours.

Auckland

 

 

 

 It was the 21st of September – that day I always remember… [- Rolling Stones]

On that Monday morning of my flight – All my bags are packed; I’m ready to go… [- John Denver] I finally got phone contact with the organizers in Kiwi Land. They still had nobody signed up for the weekends AND only 2 people who signed up for the free introductory evenings — I had been under the impression those had filled up…

 

Under new  im-pressions my bodies’ enthusiastic flow of achievement evaporated at the inhale. I experienced myself go physically through the Startle Reflex first phase [Ex-Tension]. I finally ex-haled ex-hausted [phase II, Languish] I closed my mouth – I sat down.

 

Now my mind desperately began trying to wrap itself around the Unexpected, the Impossible. Only my ‘old friends’ jetted in – self-judgment, failure, inadequacy…  Before they could take complete crippling control over the unusual beckoning void inside my head I also perceived  a new voice like a beam of life light – Self Compassion!  AAAAHHH!

 

“BUT what about my trip, the new country……..!” – My mind kept interfering  with notoriously agaonizing  disbelief.

I heard myself laughing– Life is what happens while you are busy making other plans… [- John Lennon]

 

The unbearable space of freedom dawned on me.
3 weeks of unscheduled time?!

This jolt in the plow line of my field of professional desire returned me to feel this present moment. I landed at the heart of life.

 10 min later I called back to cancel my trip.

There’s a crack in everything – that’s how the light gets in… [- Lenard Cohen]

 

Another few exhales later my mind integrated enough into my body, noticing space inside, feeling my feet on the ground and my whole spines’ smooth unwinding. I made another phone call.

Was it the September, my readiness, the crack, divine planning or all together? The Big Sur cabin where I have had the absolute pleasure last year to write on my book was available for a full 2 weeks! YEAH!

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During the week I had left to get down there I released more illusions on running my life, relaxed, reconnected, repacked. I was also able to schedule just enough individual sessions and classes to earn exactly the amount for the cabin rent.

 

Only when I sat in the harvest moon bathed bathtub on the deck of my cabin in the Red Woods over the deep canyon I remembered how sometime during the busy frenzy of this summer I had wished for the money and time to write on my book this year.

“Be careful what you ask for!”

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 I learned to trust the mystery of the river of life.

 

With smiles of gratitude

 

Sabine

Disclaimer

Please! Whatever you do – Stay within the limits of pleasure. Make it simple and easy.

The author doesn’t take any responsibility for any possible consequences that might occur from your thoughts and actions.

 

Sabine Grandke-Taft

Embodiment Expert and Workshop Leader

for more information please go to

www.RadiantEmbodiment.com

http://www.linkedin.com/in/sabinegrandketaft

 

 

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Pleasure II in 500 words?

Posted by admin on September 29th, 2009

Contemplations on the most important experience of our life.
501 words takes you about 3 min to read

Returning from the 15th Annual Pacific Women Circle Association Crescent Moon Retreat on Vancouver Island  [http://www.pwcacamp.org/index.html]  I strongly  feel the need to keep writing about expanding our minds automatic association of the words “Pleasure” and “Touch” with Sex.

I feel the urgency to bring alertness to our painfully limited, and by the way hyper-masculine, one-way fantasies that put physical pleasure immediately into the sexual amphitheatre, as if that’s our only playground to enjoy touch sensually. ? Ouch!

In last months Blogging Body Bliss I mentioned our gender based brain differences biologically stirring men to link life’s experiences 2,5 times easier to sex. So why do women fall into that same cul-de-sac around ‘getting some’, or not?

I spend a full-blown pleasure week with 60 remarkable women, dancing, laughing, celebrating, teaching, singing, learning and trusting the mystery that unfolds in each moment because we were softening our bodies. Creating art on all levels with everything just because we did it with the awareness that comes from slowing down in the sacred circle we created. Even crying was received as pleasurable because women were releasing tensions, trusting one another enough to open, feeling held and safe enough; finding and releasing into serenity resting inside our bodies; allowing the warm and spacious container of the great-er mother to nurture us inside and out, all around.

On the opening night I offered a circle massage sequence; asking each woman to get really close to each other, do a ¼ turn and reach for the shoulders in front with soft paws. To my great sadness many of the women had not been physically touched and nurtured for sooo long, some for many years.

Bhutan, Paro Palast
The initial nervous giggles from our unusual closeness with touch quickly turned into sighs of release, purrrrrrs in delightful surrender and in the end swaying full body smiles.
From the lakeside the warm rays of the setting sun melted our tensions tangibly into the grass underneath our bare feet.

That cold-blooded grip of our fear of intimacy softened just enough to allow us to feel more freely and to begin to perceive our own humanness and with that each others divinity. Tired exhausted women felt energized, tense stressed-out women landed inside their bodies and released their suffering minds. Everyone relaxed those boundaries that we so tightly install inside and around ourselves in this unfriendly intimi-dating world of the survival of the fittest.

We began to date intimacy. We had entered a sacred space to trust the touch for another woman; a hug, a little massage, even a smile; we let it in stilling our feminine hunger for real connection. Giving and receiving touch at the same moment with 60 women let our awareness grown beyond any usual suspicion.
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Let you own awareness deepen with each experience. Notice how your body will flow naturally with more nurturing gentle and loving pleasure.

Free yourself from a male brain anatomy imposed stereotype of perception and invite men into the endless space of your whole body deliciocity.
With a smile
Sabine

 Thank you for reading

 

Disclaimer

Please! Whatever you do – Stay within the limits of pleasure. Make it simple and easy.

The author doesn’t take any responsibility for any possible consequences that might occur from your thoughts and actions.

 

Sabine Grandke-Taft

Embodiment Expert and Workshop Leader
for more information please go to
www.RadiantEmbodiment.com
http://www.linkedin.com/in/sabinegrandketaft

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Pleasure I in 500 words?

Posted by admin on August 4th, 2009

501 words will take you about 3 min to read.

Whole Body Contemplations on the most Important Experience of Your Life

 

I am a “Pleasure Pig”! Can you relate?

Pigs love to play in the soft warm mud – That I found out very young around the little pond in the meadow below our weekend cottage to the great dismay of my already sensitized mother who constantly changed my ‘ruined’ clothe before she gave in and let me take them off altogether. Finally – freedom and total pleasure for me! Yeeepeeeeeeee!

Pleasure Pig 2 

In my twenties I specialized in Child Development and Sensory Integration [SI] and worked with babies and kids. Then the mud turned into thick heavy Nivea Cream, warm water, cushy plastic mats, and lots of towels to clean up the wonderful mess.

Wow!

Imagine you smear cream all over your body and swish down a warm water slide. Oozing and squirming, spiraling your body smoothly and with total ease in the goop —- may be later after you read more on how life changing that can be?

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Today I help adults re-discover their ability to feel, receive, integrate and give nonsexual pleasure on all levels. Aaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhh!

 

Women’s Pleasure Perception is different!

Dr. Louann Brizendine’s book The Female Brain scientifically clarifies what women noticed all along: Compared to a male brain [with 2 ½ times more cells for sex drive and larger centers for action / aggression] a female brain has 11% more neurons for language and hearing, a larger hub for emotion, memory and greater ability to read peoples’ cues. – We have a brain whose primary values are communication, emotional sensitivity, memory, connection and responsiveness. 

You knew it! Our biological brain allows women greater capacity to feel sensations sensually and with our whole body.

You may also sense it is high time to stop “denying the influence of biology.” – I take the pleasure to invite our innate human animal [and consequently our partner’s] to enjoy pleasure at its Whole-Body-Deliciocity-BEST.

Women’s bodies are wholly sense based – I am not talking about the fun we can have with science, politics and business – Here I am guiding thatmind into your physical receptivity /sense-ability /sens-orality.

Uuups my PC says “no no” to the word orality and suggests – morality…great isn’t it? – Exactly! Our growing body-phobia is our core agony roboterizing the world.

 

 Pleasure means Sex [?]

Results are sickening divorce rates and healthy drug sales for depression. We overeat to fill our gaping vacuums hungry for real communication. Pleasure-deprivation usher us into the fangs of a masculinly sexualized industry selling ‘pleasure’ from anti-ageing, to fitness [get hard – stay hard] and out fits ‘that turn heads’, to S/m workshops and rich man’s online dating.

 Existential fear has women and men’s masculine energy run for sex, aggression and action. Stop!

Feel – find connection and pleasure inside the depth of your senses in this moment. 

“You only have to let the soft animal of your body love what it loves” – Mary Oliver  

Find your Pleasure of Expectancy until the next Blogging Body Bliss

 Thank you for reading

Sabine

 

Disclaimer

Please! Whatever you do – Stay within the limits of pleasure. Make it simple and easy.

The author doesn’t take any responsibility for any possible consequences that might occur from your thoughts and actions.

 

Sabine Grandke-Taft

Embodiment Expert and Workshop Leader
for more information please go to
www.RadiantEmbodiment.com
http://www.linkedin.com/in/sabinegrandketaft

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The SERIOUS Deliciocity of Foot Pleasuring Massage III

Posted by admin on July 13th, 2009

JULY 2009

1784 words will take you about 9 minutes to read

A 3-piece of writing about our incredible feet and how caressing them grows us deeper into life and love and presents

 

III. How?

At last, the practical instructions on touching each others feet.

No more excuses left- you can do it, especially YOU who’s read all three pieces.

 

If pleasure is so good for everything how can I have more of it?

Answer: You give what you want to get!

So, if you have never received a full body – or ‘just’ a foot massage, I highly recommend it and even urge you to gift yourself a.s.a.p. Ask around for a great  and nurturing massage therapist and receive a professional treatment first. After you have felt how deliciously fantastic it is to let go and receive - just do it – create that space for somebody else!

Your curiosity has already begun to open your heart. There’s no reason for thinking that you can not pleasure your own or somebody else’s feet just with your touch. Even if you only hold that foot – that is so trustingly laying in your hands, warm it and allow your good intensions and your heart to flow out of your soft-ening palms and into their whole body – you are creating magic for both of you.

Precautions

In general do not massage the feet of a person with cancer, infectious disease or fever. You might cause those processes to be exhilarated because of the stronger blood circulation inside their whole body that will occur when you kneed their feet. But this should not keep you from lovingly holding, warming and caressing there feet. During pregnancy the areas of the inner and outer ankles as well as the lower legs should not be worked on.

In some very sensitive or simply stressed people a good deep foot massage can ignite a cleansing response for the whole body. Even a little therapeutic pressure on the feet might provoke a strong reaction of their autonomic nervous system. The first sign shows up as sweaty wetness of their hands and/or feet. This is when you stop what you are doing and just hold the feet with your thumbs gentle resting on the solar plexus point in the center of the sole of their foot. Please see photo.

solarplexus point

Hold those places still without pressure until their nervous system has relaxed again and the sweating has dried up. This is called ‘the Motorcycle Grip’ – I always imaging riding the Harley through the desert. My leaned back spacious mindset allows the person also to relax and feel safe inside again. This kind of your presence will be very helpful.

Should you keep stimulating, those people might feel anything from slight dizziness to strong dizziness, feeling hot or cold or both and all the way to vomiting and diarrhea – this is called a ‘Healing Crisis’ generated by the autonomic nervous system. Generally very good! BUT I would not suggest to anybody Giver or Receiver to slide down that road unprepared unless you are with an experienced reflexology practitioner and a deep cleansing is necessary and freeing.

Beautiful Moments

My friend Aleeta’s body was cancer ridden. On my visits we would snuggle up together on the couch so I could hold and caress her swollen sore feet and her body got more comfortable. During those moments we were able to drop into deep intimacy. A place where our physical nurturing relaxed our minds enough and her and my initial fear of death softened. We both felt a sense of space, ease and deep connection in a bigger experience of life and death.

Here are some practical tips for you

Invite your Receiver – you don’t have to be shy. After all you are inviting them for a real treat. “Would you like to receive a foot rub? I just read these articles about it and I invite you to be my guest…”

 

Your Pleasuring Session

O.   Relax – be warm and cozy – as always – the setting is important – this can be very simple with a blanket covering your sitting or reclining partner and a towel under their feet if your use oil. It feels good to be touched by clean warm hands. You can play more elaborate with a hot scented foot bath, candles and soft music, wine, bonbon and on from there.

wine bottle foot print (Small)

Before you begin any kneading and when you end your session apply a few connecting strokes to the lower legs and feet.

It is healing to support the flow of life energy streaming up and down our body through the invisible Meridian System. Here you can get a good look at it:

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

http://www.acupressure.com/charts/large-chart.htm

Here is how the Meridian Stroke goes: Gently, from the knees stroke down the outside of both legs, over the outer ankles and off over the 4 outer toes. Than; stroke up from the big toes over the inner ankles and up the inner legs towards the knees. Turn and stroke down the outsides again. Do this a few times. The rhythm and flow of these easy strokes will help both of you to get here.

Now you can play on with any or all of the touch techniques below.

1.   Always touch with a listening touch!

2.   Trust your gut feeling – your loving touch can not do anything wrong!

3.   Touch how you would like to be touched – begin lightly, and remember
your own wonderful experience or delightful fantasy with foot massage.

4.   Be curious without judgment –

  • Where is this foot soft, hard, tight, rough, smooth or flexible?
  • How would you like to touch this area? Firm, deep, soft, light or just holding and warming it? What does it need?
  • Play with fast heating rubs with the little finger side of your hand and steady slow circles with a thumb or other fingers.
  • Gently uncurl those toes – holding them on the sides – lengthen them
  • Where do you want to stretch and bend – expand?

5.   Play with long strokes or ‘kneading dough’ stationary with big soft hands
or just with your fingers.

6.   It’s never to deep, it’s only to fast…

7.   Ask them to tell you how it feels. Ask them to use words at first and later
just to use sounds. Let your partner’s pleasure guide you. Mmmmmhhhhh!

By the way – this is how we can learn to communicate what we need and how during sexual play as well as in other areas of our relationship.

8.   Stay within the limits of pleasure! Make it easy and simple!

9.   Notice your own breathing and relaxation before theirs. We all tend to
tighten our breath and body in new or in intimate situations, [read
about that in my April 2009 Blogging Body Bliss on Breathing your
own breath]

10. You can use oil [olive oil from your kitchen’s great] or massage cream or special foot balms or salt/sugar cream scrubs or nothing but love – no shocks with cold squirts or aftershocks with stains. Please warm up the lube in your palms and put a towel under.

11. Relax, exhale, this is about pleasure for both of you. When you feel your
partner’s body soften, see their face relaxing and their breathing
deepen;   just let it in. This is their gift to you and lets you feel how easy
you can connect on a really nourishing level. The more you can allow
yourself to feel the pleasure the more your partner can let go and�
receive as well.

12. Keep massaging painful areas but more lightly and less pinpointed –
imagine your touch is spreading and diffusing built up tension like�
honey crystals melting in warm tea – have some and also lot’s of water.

13. Find your ever changing rhythm – enjoying your self is priority!

14. Slow down – allow!

15. End with Motorcycle Grip [under precautions] and Meridian Strokes.
[explained above]

 You are always touching the whole body when touching feet

Some very special places on the foot

I said before that all of our body is represented in our feet. Please have a look at the map again.

footreflex zones (small)

Here are some places to pay special attention too.

1. The Meeting of the 3 Rivers

This point is located 4 fingers wide above the inner ankle – you can find it there where your circling thumb seems to be able to drop right into a little dent on the inner shin bone. The point is usually quiet tender and can really hurt when pressed harder. This acupuncture/acupressure point got its name in Chinese Medicine because the power lines of the liver, kidney and spleen meridian are meeting here! Do not press on it when your partner is pregnant, but do disperse its tension when she has any menstrual problems, including cramps and foul moods. This area is a wonderful place to help with balancing our whole menstrual process.

2. The Pelvic region

The spaces of the inner and outer heel represent the whole pelvic region including our sexual organs, ducts and muscles. As described above do not work here when your friend is pregnant, but do work here for all issues related to menstruation and sexuality.

The line between the inner and outer heel across the front of the ankle is representing the ovarian tubs or seminal ducts as well as the lymphatic system of the pelvic region.

All these places are often tender to pressure and can respond with whole body bliss and delight when they begin to relax through your touch and attention. This said – the area offers itself as a fantastic zone for sensual foreplay.

3. The Swim Skins

Here I mean the webs between the toes. The lymphatic drainage system for the head is represented here. So if your person/child has a cold or the likes, this area might be extremely painful. You can support the healing process when you gently stroke and pull on the skins to release their tension. GENTLY! Especially if they are running a fever.

4. Kids

Cleaver moms have told me how little foot rubs calm down their overwhelmed kids, balance their energy and allows them to finish the homework in peace.

Summarizing
the potential of the Deliciocity of Foot Massage I’d say you are:

–         Creating a safe place to become present and connect and talk real

–         Relaxing and reviving every inch of the body

–         Easing a bad mood to shift into simple deliciocity

–         Heightening the ability to experience pleasure sensuality and
sexuality; authenticity intimacy and sanity

–         Creating a wonderful space for healing and growing on every level

–         Helping to save the planet

Enjoy your play and the deepening of your relationship with each person you touch.

Sabine

 

Disclaimer

Please! Whatever you do – Stay within the limits of pleasure. Make it simple and easy.

The author doesn’t take any responsibility for any possible consequences that might occur from your thoughts and actions.

Sabine Grandke-Taft

Embodiment Expert and Workshop Leader

for more information please go to

www.RadiantEmbodiment.com

http://www.linkedin.com/in/sabinegrandketaft

Creative Commons License

Sabine Grandke-Taft holds the copyright for her blog but allows you to copy and distribute her work provided you give me credit and link back to my website www.radiantembodiment.com Thank you very much.

The SERIOUS Deliciocity of Foot Pleasuring Massage I

Posted by admin on May 11th, 2009

proximate time to read 1129 words – 6 min
A 3-piece of writing about our incredible feet and how caressing them grows us deeper into life and love and presents

I. What?
I know if I asked you would come up with some very nice scrumptious things that you would like to have done to your whole body, but here let me strongly “put my foot down” for receiving and even for giving foot rubs.

Our feet are our elemental connection to the earth. Besides balancing the rest of our body above they are balancing us electromagnetically as a whole. Literally they are our foundation. The foundation for whatever we put on top. They are not just the multitalented footing for our bones and muscles, the handy propellers for our super lightning speed with toe suction cups for balance; they also found equilibrium for our mind and our emotional body. I propose:

The realization of our spiritual body stands on our feet.

Your feet are providing you with your sense of BEING. Being grounded and deeper yet… they can give us all the sense of Being rooted As embodied Spirit. This absolute essential experience of Spirit Alive, of course, can only be realized
IF YOU FEEL YOUR FEET!

Let’s feel – shall we! How are your feet right now?
Did it take you a moment to bring your attention down there – that far??
Are your feet feeling alive and vibrantly happy, warm and free, soft and ready to carry you anywhere?

Mine sometimes feel formlessly cold and dis-connected from the rest of my already contracted body. This happens mostly when I am very much concentrating in my head on getting something done right. [- like writing this piece at 10 pm – Ha! – good reminder not to leave my body for my mind]

Sometimes they feel like they are dangling somewhere far away. I know real well that if only I would put on warm socks ALL of me would begin to feel better. BUT, but but… when my feet are already so dead and my mood is appropriating and my mind is simultaneously trying to outthink itself [without making any mistakes, of course] – I am not even having the energy to stop what I’m doing, get up and do take care that my feet [I] feel happy. I am sure you know that space when you are already so miserable and running on [high] low you do not even want to help yourself feel better – or am I just projecting my excuses for not caring for myself onto you?

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HELP!?
Help is needed!
Help is right at your toes-tips!

For most of us being touched during a massage for instance, brings us more easily and often deliciously back into our over-all sense of harmony and well-being – the BEST reason for having a body. Touch grounds us. It re-connects all the scattered pieces. Touch makes us feel whole.
But our feet seem to be the forlorn child cast out into the ally way of  our deep need for sanity, nurturing and pleasure. Actually your feet are much easier accessible than having to take off your clothes, find the right place, time, money and person to touch your back and shoulders, arms legs and belly, neck and all. During foot massage your back and shoulders will relax as well as the whole rest of you and you could even leave your socks on.

I propose a twosome –
“gonna try a little help from my friends….”

Do you have a girlfriend you “detox” with each week? It’s time! Get cozy on the chaise longue, the sofa, in a meadow or at an outdoor seating café … [at least here in the Bay Area where touching another ones foot under the table is considered exciting and hip – Who knows, you might even get some wonderful people patiently lining up to receive next…] Seriously! We all truly need it!
Each one of you gives a foot to the other before you begin your usual chat chewing fat. You get ‘down to it’ faster and by the way you might have even more fun.

A very spot-on statement from my Watsu teacher Harold Dull
“Touch is a necessity without which babies die and adults become strange….”

Touching each others feet allows immediate access to the whole body, because each bone and muscle, each organ, nerve and tooth; literally everything is represented amazingly in that little part of us. Being touched and held by another at our feet reaches All of us in a supportive noninvasive way.

footreflex-zones-small

This beautiful old illustration I scanned in for you from a calendar shows the most important zones for accessing our inner organs embodied on the soles of our feet, but the whole foot and the ankle offer those zones.

When you bring them home you can turn the wonderful effects of being so much closer and nourished by the exchange with your girlfriend into magic. Begin to make foot rubbing a new habit for the flourishing of your relationship.

My husband and I will sit down almost every evening to share about our day, grab each others foot and re-connect in this delicious body way. Our touch invites both of us to relax our mind and expand our awareness. The instant embodiment that happens allows both of us to effortlessly become present with ourselves and with each other. We manage the magical switch from our work/action/stress/mind energy and open an easy bridge way into our relationship. Our sharing becomes a delight.

The 5 T’s: Touch Transforms Tension To Tenderness.

A little Story
Some time ago my husband took this practice to a new high. It happened to be one-of-those-nights when I growled: “I am in “Pre-Magnificent-Stage” [PMS] and I would rather be alone right now than having to cook dinner and sit there with ‘some guy’ [him] to eat it…. Rrrrrrrrrrrrrrrraaaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhh!”

It only took him a sec before he smiled – obviously not threatened by my ultimately hidden cry for help he told me to get on the sofa – take off my socks and give him my feet! His masculine clarity got me. I surrendered, still grudgingly, but than schlepped my tight miserable mind-out-of-body over into the living room.

Schwup-dee-vup! A few minutes later and with the touch of his big warm hands my foul hormonal mood attack was transformed from a pissy mountain lion mama into her soft-[ening] playful cub – still, I was a ‘youth of a carnivorous mammal’, but now I had an excellent time Being back as my body-self and with him. Clever man that is! Ppppppuuuuuuuuurrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr!

How come a little foot rub can change life?
Back to Babies – Roots of Our Sensory Development – Neural crosstalk between feet and genitals [?] and
Foot Notes

read on in June

The author doesn’t take any responsibility for any possible consequences that might occur from your thoughts and actions.

 

Sabine Grandke-Taft

Embodiment Expert and Workshop Leader

for more information please go to

www.RadiantEmbodiment.com

 

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On Breathing Your Own Life

Posted by admin on April 14th, 2009

As he slumped forward to take of his shoe he released a suppressed huffing sound as if it caused him pain to pull up his leg.

I asked and my client said with a pale sigh that this was always the same problem with his lack of being able to breathe. Jack, now in his mid 30’s, had learned early on in his difficult childhood that he could survive when he would only breathe a wee bit into his stomach. I am sure you can reflect on that way of breathing that we can barely see or feel.

We all know how it is when we are scared and better try to be invisible – our whole body contracts. Our chest tightens and all our muscles clench up simultaneously as we make our-Selves shrink. In its extreme our ability to just stop our body and withdraw from life is called “playing Possum”. It is a brilliant capacity of our ancient survival mechanisms.

Following the roots of your human instincts you can watch animals in the wild use a total “freeze” often very successfully in case of immediate danger. The attacker looses interest in a “dead” body and later the survivor wakes up, shakes off the experience and has lunch instead of being lunch. The often daily threat does not seem to have any lasting effects. Our human experience is different.

As kids many of us have learned to take refuge by limiting our vital expressions in Jack’s way and keeping ourselves just invisible enough to get through – sometimes for many years.
I call it survival breathing – receiving and moving just the bare minimum to stay alive; in contrast to allowing life to breath us fully.

Growing out of the dependence of childhood our life has often invited and allowed us to begin exploring more of our individual Selves. BUT – if that excellent strategy that has secured your survival for so long has taken over as an unconscious habitual pattern of limiting your Self you never really get to enjoy your life either – the way you somewhere know deep inside is possible. On more or less severe levels I know this to be true for myself as well as for most of us.

You can imagine that relaxing and breathing more freely is one of the most important prerequisites for your aliveness to radiate.

In that moment Jack’s habit of letting only tiny survival breaths into his belly did not work any more because his thigh was now pressing into his abdomen.
The constriction pattern in his body had also gotten hold of other life situations. Jack had already told me about his agony in the line at Pete’s coffee for instance. He finds himself expecting that all the other people there are thinking badly of him. It gets harder and harder to breathe because his freeze/self-judgment pattern can not allow him to soften any space in his chest and permit air in. Caught in this internal trap it is very difficult to feel ones body rooted and find a relaxed sense of clear Self- assessment.

By pulling up his leg on my chair he had taken the space away for his belly to expand the usual bit and so his old fear of not breathing “right – again” puffed out.

On one side [note]:
I need to point out that opening our body to a greater extend than we usually feel safe with [especially in the front around our heart just by taking in a deeper breath] can bring up a lot of emotion: one being the real fear of being seen, feeling unprotected, vulnerable and influenced by everything coming our way. So with our familiar protective survival instinct we tend to rather stay “safe”, contracted and put up with feeling quite miserable like my client. When we deeply honor this aspect of our truth our self-compassion softens our body-mind enough to begin stirring again. Notice your own breathing right now. May be you can feel a little release.

On the other side:
In the habit of very restricted breathing [and therefore a reduced experience of our energy] our body and our mind seem to loose contact and forget how our ribs can actually move and thus allow fresh air to fill all of the vastness of our lungs – I am talking not only about the most obvious spaces on both sides of our chest bone in the front. Re-member also the quarters of your lungs underneath your armpits on the sides and the huge expanse of the lung tissue in your back that reaches from the top of your shoulder blades almost all the way down to your waste line.

Did you know that your lungs live just as close to the surface in your back as they are in your front?
Feel it!
When you explore with your finger tips in-between your ribs [lets say underneath your right nipple or behind your left clavicle] you are feeling through muscles right onto your lung tissue. Equally so in your back – your lungs are snug up to the inside of your ribs filling the whole lumen of your rib cage. Right now I am experiencing my ribs moving when I lean against the backrest of my chair and exhale-inhale into that area.

I asked my client if he would like to explore. “Yes!” He sat down on a stool and felt his upper belly and lower ribs with both hands. The belly swells with inhaling and gets smaller with every exhale. Rising – Falling; Expansion – Contraction – the rhythm of life right at our fingertips. When he paid attention he began to feel that his lower ribs could also move up and apart when air filled the lung tissue that is waiting underneath. Jack got curious.

In the few months Jack’s been coming for sessions his main complaints have been the problems caused by his compromised breathing and how he would often totally forget to “do it”. When that happens he also has to feel the consequences of the lack of oxygen and motion right away – more physical and emotional tension, low energy, and fear all the way to anxiety and all the way to depression with tons of self-judgment. – A total recall of that “old darkness” that does not serve him any longer.

With small movements and his awareness he then explored the opening and closing of different parts of his whole rib cage. Some time later he was leaning his front on a big soft pillow and his forehead was resting on some folded towels. I was now gently touching his back and the spaces in-between his ribs feeling how the tissues were softening and his breathing was beginning to enter new spaces naturally.

After inviting one side of his back in this way I let him feel for any different sensations. Compared to the other side he noticed more space and a sense of warmth. Later when I began to integrate both sides he all of a sudden said: “This is really wonderful to be able to feel my breathing so easily and relaxed.” Jack was experiencing a whole new in-side. He was amazed. For me this was one of the very first times he had noticed and spontaneously expressed a positive feeling in his body.

As Jack was getting ready to leave our session he voiced his usual hesitation to trust that his mind could remember to use his newly found space for breathing. Remember life’s rhythm of expansion –contraction? So naturally his mind went back into the old tightly beaten groove of “having to do it” and “it better be right”. I listened intently noticing his now rosy cheeks and his eyes that had cleared up since he had arrived.

Next, he was talking energetically about something else as he rather swiftly and without any effort in breathing lifted his leg up high to put his shoe back on. No agony, no fear, no interruption of his life, just a natural flow. He did not even seem to notice. Now I smiled and pointed to his leg. That’s when he woke up to the ease and natural intelligence his body was just living.

At our next session Jack told me he had gone to Pete’s coffee for a tea afterwards … With a smile he had noticed his thought: “I guess I am feeling better than any of these people here.”

I invite your feedback, comments and your own experiences.
My gratitude for non-stop learning goes to all my clients and teachers and I trust You also will benefit from reading and feeling.
All names have been changed to honor the privacy of my clients. Still, the stories are written with their permission.

Thank you for reading
Love and light
Sabine

You ONLY have to let the soft animal of your body love what is loves
– Mary Oliver

The author doesn’t take any responsibility for any possible consequences that might occur from your thoughts and actions.

 

 

Sabine Grandke-Taft

Embodiment Expert and Workshop Leader

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